It's a lot about the mindset you carry at a particular point of time. I wouldn't call myself more of a mindset guy as I find myself more of an essence guy but life teaches you and I ended up realising that mindset and approach matter a lot. In my youth I had a sentimental sort of artistic-poetic bent towards life which I still retain as module after all the practicality that life has thrown at me making me more pragmatic and overriding my idealistic bent though I still retain idealism as a base state. Early youth I used to wallow in my suffering and that is not underplaying my suffering, it was enough to make a grown man off himself but True Detective Season 1 style wallowing in and philosophising one's suffering does little in a setting which is predatory except getting you under the crosshair of predation. Two things must be remembered at all times and they are essential to know, one, that happiness is the base state of a human being and sadness and depression is sociopolitical in nature and two, one must always think positive while knowing that majority of people are in an assembly line of extractive exploitation where they would be extracted and discarded while the whole blame for their suffering would be put on them when it is not the case. So, one must intentionally choose to be happy no matter how much is the sadness or depression, of course it is hard but happiness is a choice, and one must always think positive especially when they get a lot of negative thoughts. Consciously thought positive thoughts neutralise the unconsciously appearing negative thoughts. Life, especially the socio-politico-economic reality, is mostly about mindset, approach and choices one makes. Also, those who have been thoroughly acquainted with the reality of the world know that there is not even a speck of God present in the world yet they must know that your God is as real as your faith and as strong as your faith and He or She empowers you if your truly have faith in Him or Her. The sociopolitical reality we live in is all about money and contacts and that means money and relationships and if you don't have both that means you are a target for predation because you don't have the social immunity. Things are actually this simple. You have to, at all times, be clear about your intent. We live in times when others stories about you can override the truth you know about yourself and so much that you would end up believing the stories others tell about you about yourself than believing in your own truth. Social reality is like deep sea, at surface it looks all calm and serene but in the depth there are predators waiting for people who have no social or financial immunity to make them their prey for reasons no other than sadistic pleasure and in this regard everyone in this country who is not well connected to what actually runs the society is dispossessed and a spiritual orphan. Once one realises that societies are evolved so much that at their base they run on an evolved emotion like hatred things get easier but this hatred is then coupled with base pleasures and instincts and evolved predatory pleasures like sadism and schadenfreude and you get societies which act pious and cultured but their actual engine is hatred, sadism and schadenfreude. Once one becomes aware of the basic truths of society and has enough knowledge of their own self navigating social realities becomes easier though it comes at the cost of naivety and innocence. The whole game is about perspective and perception and one should always have a perspective that is true to themselves and a perception that is positive, not because society is good but for the sake of their own mental and physical health. One can't change their essence but one can change their approach and they can work on their mindset. We live in times where wallowing in one's own misery too is a luxury.